What does it take to be trustworthy?

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We’ve been talking about how integrity affects our reputation in recent posts.  Integrity is a key component of being trustworthy….what else does it take?

Honesty
A trustworthy person is honest in what they say and what they do.  When we are are honest in what we say, we are truthful and sincere.  When when are honest in what we do, we don’t deceive, cheat or steal. Wondering abou white lies?  Check out our example about lying to your granny.

Promise Keeping
A trustworthy person keeps  promises and  is reliable.  Keep your word, honor your commitments, show up when and where you are supposed to, be dependable.

Loyalty
A trustworthy person is loyal.  When we are loyal, we stand by your family and friends, and keep secrets (when appropriate).

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Integrity. What does it really mean?

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We show integrity when our actions and our words match – when we “walk the talk”.

Integrity is doing what you think is right – even if no one else is doing it.

Here’s a few tips on how to show integrity:

  • Stand up for your beliefs
  • Follow your conscience
  • Be honorable & upright
  • Live by your values no matter what other people say
  • Have the courage to do what is right
  • Guard your reputation

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Sometimes it’s worth the wait

Charlie Wittmack is an internationally renowned adventurer, a fellow in the Explorers’ Club, and the only American to have climbed Mount Everest and swum the English Channel. Last year he became the first person in history to complete the World Triathlon – a 10,000-mile triathlon stretching from rural England to the Himalayas in Nepal. The following excerpt is from Wittmack’s blog about the journey.

Cycling Torugart Pass
The Torugart Pass is part of the ancient Silk Road trading route between Europe and Asia and the modern border between Kyrgyzstan and China. At over 13,000 feet, it is widely considered the most difficult border crossing in the world, a reputation earned because of the deep snow and strong winds that are prevalent at the Pass.
In my research of the route I had found only a handful of accounts of individuals reaching the Torugart Pass by bicycle. To reach the Pass itself, you must travel 250 miles through the Tian Shan mountains, frequently over snow and ice, while scaling numerous mountain passes. After studying the maps and reading everything I could find on the route, it looked like the perfect challenge.
After cycling across the deserts of Kazakhstan and Russia for almost a month, I was excited to start climbing into the mountains.  As I rode, it seemed that each foot of elevation gain was accompanied by a rush of endorphins and after a couple of days of climbing I began to forget about my struggles in the desert. However, just as the desert had wreaked havoc on my mind and body, it had also weakened my equipment. On my second day of climbing, the right shifter on my bicycle broke off in my hand.  Unable to repair the part, I had to return to Bishkek to find a solution.
After a day of searching the city, I found a small shop that could rent me a bicycle. The rental was far from the quality that I required for Torugart, but it was the only option available. I rented the bike and headed back to the mountains with my fingers crossed.
On the second day of riding the rental, I got a flat tire.  I tried to repair the tire in the freezing rain, but my bicycle pump froze and failed.  I hid the bike in the tall grass and walked to the next town to find another pump. When I returned with the pump, the bike was gone.
The third bike broke almost as soon as I started to pedal. The conditions were now quite cold, the road incredibly steep, and the rear derailleur (the part that changes the gears in the back) snapped off as soon as I stood on the pedals and began to climb.
Each day I fell further and further behind schedule as the snow continued to fall in the Torugart Pass. The weekend came and the border closed, and I waited for a fourth bike to be sent from Bishkek.
On the fourth try, the escort vehicle, which was now following me quite closely, got a flat tire of its own.
On the fifth try, I made it.
At 6:51 on October 25 I rode my bike across Torugart Pass, fulfilling a childhood dream. The temperature was minus five, and I was tired and cold and emotional, but I had a warm heart. To reach the pass I had ridden across 70 km of snow and ice, and climbed three passes above 13,000 feet – all on a bicycle with only one gear.
As it turned out it wasn’t strength that allowed me to reach Torugart Pass, it was patience. So often when we are asked to stretch to reach a personal or professional goal, we don’t reach it on the first attempt.  In the frustration of defeat we often have the desire to give up, but we have to be patient and try again.
On the Torugart Pass I learned that the fulfillment of reaching a goal that wasn’t easily attained was worth the wait.



What’s your reputation?

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“It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.” – Warren Buffet

“Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.” – Abe Lincoln

“Although we judge ourselves by our best intentions and most noble deeds, others are likely to judge us by our last worst act.” – Michael Josephson

Last week we wrote about how we can sometimes judge ourselves by our good intentions but judge others by their actions.   In turn, others could be judging us only by our actions. It’s a good reminder that our reputation is built upon our actions, not our intentions.

For you to think about:  how does all of this relate to integrity?

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Giving opportunities, not just taking them


Danny Heggen
is the Youth Program Coordinator for Community!Youth Concepts. H
e is also the editor of two books, Voices on the Inside: the Women of Boronia and From a Growing Community, Iowa’s Homeless Youth. He is a 2008 graduate of Simpson College and lives in Des Moines with his wife. Here are some of his thoughts on how our character changes when we become adults.

Provide an Opportunity

I wish that whenever I needed something, it would drop out of the sky and plop onto my lap. (Is that too much to ask?)

In thinking about the reality of this, I am struck by two ideas:

  1. Set goals, work hard and achieve – my dad made sure to cover this as I painted barns with him to pay for college, and it is how I have grown as a non-profit professional and writer;
  2. No matter how hard I try, some things remain out of reach.

In the case of this second idea, I need something beyond the skills, resources or education I have; I need an opportunity.

Abbreviated History of Opportunity

All right, so I can’t tell you exactly how opportunity came to exist. But while I scanned my memory for an example to use, it occurred to me that our communities are built upon opportunities. Someone needs something they don’t have; someone else has it and provides it.

How does this apply to opportunity? Opportunity means, “a good position, chance, or prospect, as for advancement or success.” In short, opportunity helps us move forward when we need to move forward. This is done by one person presenting an opportunity to another.

The Switch

Because of opportunities presented to me, I have traveled the world, published two books, established an outstanding network of friends and colleagues, and found a job at Community! Youth Concepts (CYC) – a Des Moines-based non-profit organization.

At CYC, I coordinate youth programs that engage youth in volunteer service. Each time I am with a group of youth, developing projects that will get them giving back to the community, I am reminded of how I used to look at adults in the community.

Except now I’m the adult.

And I realize: As we grow older, we become responsible for not only taking opportunities but also for presenting opportunities. I call this point The Switch.

It Builds Character (2.0)

Character development looks different as we grow older and progress professionally. It is no longer just about doing things for ourselves to learn – raking the lawn or staying in the game when we’re losing. It is also about providing our skills, resources and knowledge for others in need.

Much like my mother used to instruct – Leave the place cleaner than you found it – I have found a similar purpose in my professional life: Provide more opportunities than I am given. So I have made this my goal. I don’t want to aim for a balance in giving and taking. I want to give more.

And no, the opportunity to provide for those in need will not simply fall out of the sky. Though when I see someone reaching out for an opportunity, I can make sure I respond and provide what I can.




Before you judge me….

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We came across this quote on Pinterest recently:

“You can’t judge others by their actions and judge yourself by your intentions.” — Unknown

But it’s so easy to do! When we judge ourselves, it’s pretty easy to give ourselves a break:

  • “I was rude to that cashier, but it was only because I had a terrible day at work.”
  • “I lied to my friend, but I don’t do it very often.”

Since we rarely know other people’s intentions, it can become easy to judge their actions. Does this change how you think about your reputation?  More on that next time.